They say leopards never change their spots, but i've been thinking, is it really fair for us to expect them (with their all ecompasing arrogance and predatory nature) to change themselves. After all, we are all only in control of our own actions, not the actions of others.
I'm all for giving second chances, but can anything that comes after really be deemed a 'chance', whether it be third, fourth or fifthteenth. After the second chance, surely cheating just becomes a predicatble pattern of behaviour, which, if we choose to endure, transforms a gracious act of forgivness into a blindly stupid act of self-degradation. Leopards do not change their spots, so why don't we just save ourselves the trouble.
Perhaps, instead of expecting the predator to change, should it not be us, the prey, who learns to adapt. Instead of falling victim to the leopards predicatble hunt, should we not learn to out smart them so we are no longer vulnerable to attack. We should learn to recognise tierd old tactics such as 'give me one more chance', 'i love you and never meant to hurt you' and my personal favorite 'it will never happen again'. Quite frankly, if you love someone, fair enough. But that love should never compromise the love you have for yourself. Oscar Wilde got it in one when he wrote in his 'Phrases and Philosophies For The Use Of The Young'' that 'to love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance'. In that sense, while men can come and go, the only person you can rely on is you and the only possession you can be sure to maintain is your self worth.
Betrayal is the worst a person can do and the only person who can stop it, is you. The only way you can betray yourself is to settle for second best. So don't. Forgive but don't forget. Let the mistakes in a relationship be the building blocks for the future and the curb upon which to learn. But always remember, there is no such thing as a third chance. Anything after second, doesn't get placed.
Yes to second chances. No to second best.
I'm all for giving second chances, but can anything that comes after really be deemed a 'chance', whether it be third, fourth or fifthteenth. After the second chance, surely cheating just becomes a predicatble pattern of behaviour, which, if we choose to endure, transforms a gracious act of forgivness into a blindly stupid act of self-degradation. Leopards do not change their spots, so why don't we just save ourselves the trouble.
Perhaps, instead of expecting the predator to change, should it not be us, the prey, who learns to adapt. Instead of falling victim to the leopards predicatble hunt, should we not learn to out smart them so we are no longer vulnerable to attack. We should learn to recognise tierd old tactics such as 'give me one more chance', 'i love you and never meant to hurt you' and my personal favorite 'it will never happen again'. Quite frankly, if you love someone, fair enough. But that love should never compromise the love you have for yourself. Oscar Wilde got it in one when he wrote in his 'Phrases and Philosophies For The Use Of The Young'' that 'to love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance'. In that sense, while men can come and go, the only person you can rely on is you and the only possession you can be sure to maintain is your self worth.
Betrayal is the worst a person can do and the only person who can stop it, is you. The only way you can betray yourself is to settle for second best. So don't. Forgive but don't forget. Let the mistakes in a relationship be the building blocks for the future and the curb upon which to learn. But always remember, there is no such thing as a third chance. Anything after second, doesn't get placed.
Yes to second chances. No to second best.
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